Jen recently created a thorough how-to guide to changing your name in BC, and it reminded me of a topic I’d wanted to write about.
It’s been interesting to see how many of my female friends and colleagues have chosen to change their name. I’d say the name-change rate is at 80-85%.
This kind of surprised me. For no particular reason, as a young man I had assumed that more women would keep their maiden name in my generation. I guess I was making a vague, incorrect association between feminism and keeping one’s name, but clearly I was off the mark. I’m also surprised how few female friends and colleagues choose the double-barreled approach.
In any case, I’m curious to hear from people on both sides of the equation: why did you change your name, or why didn’t you? Or, if you aren’t married, do you plan to change your name?
This is mostly a question for women, though I do know a couple of men who changed their name when they got married. I knew one couple who devised an entirely new last name (‘Steel’, if I recall correctly) for themselves when they wedded.
The most common reason I hear for the decision is that “I wanted to have the same name as my children”. I’m always a little confused by this, because it kind of assumes that the kids will get their father’s name, doesn’t it?