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Finding Your Single Friends on Facebook

Over dinner, Julie and I were musing about setting up a mutual friend. We scanned our brains for other friends and acquaintances who are single.

Recognizing the shortcomings of my brain, I figured Facebook might do a good job of standing in. I poked around a bit, but didn’t immediately find what I was looking for.

I turned to Google, and discovered the Facebook app Most Eligible Singles. It looks pretty silly, but once you add it, there’s an option on the app page to show your single friends. I have shockingly few, particularly of the female variety. Of the 465 Facebook ‘friends’ (take that term with a Dead Sea’s worth of salt) there are only 17 females who are declared as ‘single’. And only six of those are in Vancouver.

After a little more looking, I eventually found the Facebook profile search, where you can filter on any profile variable. However, the results don’t seem to easily discriminate between your immediate friends, and friends of friends. So, it’s sub-optimal.

23 comments

  1. Is it really that so few of your female friends are single or does that app only scan their page for their relationship status. Many people I know have removed that piece of information (that listed them as single, in a relationship etc.) because it’s too personal and didn’t feel the need to advertise their romantic life on Facebook.

    (Incidentally, when you are single and then delete that line, your feed shows you “no longer listed as single,” which makes everyone email you to see what has happened.)

    1. A heart has a million stories and i will be happy if you can be my last and final story…i am really do sure that my heart is not deceiving me about what am feeling for you right now.you are so beautiful in fact you have captivated me with your beauty.i will search know further you may be the right person for me,i know you will be allot curious about me, love is what counts.

      i want to tell you that all that matters a lot in life,in every relationship is trust,kindness,loving,caring,honest,understanding,self control,patience,easygoing and truth fullness.that is what that matters a lot in relationship,you can get back to me on my personal email address so i can send you some picture and tell you more about myself. with love.

      1. I want honesty and trust in all I do. I have found that most of the men in this city has lost their real sense of being and that is why it’s hard for them to find a real woman that has morals, and values, and let’s not talk about wisdom. I believe that if you are real and true to yourself you will find what you’re looking for

  2. That’s true. If you list your relationship status as “single,” creepy randoms come out of the wordwork to try to friend you/message you/poke you/etc. So you probably do have a lot of undeclared single friends!

  6. The core of my friends on FB are undergrads/college students. Almost all list themselves as single. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t dating or hooking up regularly. It just means they aren’t married. That is the interpretation that I have of single.

    You can’t use FB profile to tell someone’s availability for dating or whether they are in a relationship. Sometimes my friends list themselves as married even though they aren’t. It isn’t that they are lying, it is just that they know that their friends know their status and what they put there isn’t really relevant. They use Facebook to remain in contact with their real world friends not to meet people online.

    It may be better to look through your friends list to see who matches his interests. Then if they didn’t say they were married as status, you could ask them if they were dating and whether they would be interested in going out with your friend.

    What would be a fun thing to do would be to create FB group for your friend “Date Dave – You know you want to”. That would then go to your News Feed and your friend would see that someone is interested in dating. As you add photos, write on the wall, add videos, that information would also get sent to the News Feed.

  7. The other thing that FB does if you do have yourself listed as single is put annoying ads on the side of your fb. I’m constantly seeing ads for “Single- date Wealthy men in Calgary” or “Why are you still Single?” etc.
    It’s enough to make me want to remove my single status from my facebook profile because it’s condescending and annoying.

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  8. Do you really want to set up your friend, or do you just want them to go on a date? I’d suggest directing to them to Lavalife or Plenty of Fish and let them do the picking themselves instead of seeing what Facebook plugin filters leave you in your friend list.

  9. OK, so I’m about a year late in asking, but I’m unable to find the: “Facebook profile search, where you can filter on any profile variable.” Is it still available? Can you tell me how to get there?

    Oh…BTW, I’m single, but I live in Colorado and I’m guessing you already found someone for your friend by now. 🙂

  10. Just thought it interesting that someone else (besides me) is out here (almost to the minute) over a year after the last comment was made.

    And….who is Beth? Is she out here, too?

  17. am 22yr old gentleman looking for the one with a serious relationship. and however hopes that he has never got someone to settle up his heart am here seriously for the one and only intending to be mine

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